"Whom having not seen, ye love; in whom, though now ye see him not, yet believing, ye rejoice with joy unspeakable and full of glory: Receiving the end of your faith, even the salvation of your souls."
1 Peter 1:8-9 (KJV)
1 Peter 1:8-9 (KJV)
Stop it with the dad and mom bashing! Our little boys are turning into sissies, our girls are becoming sex objects, and our kids are looked upon as savages. There is a sexually deviate phenomenon going on in our country with the help of Hollywood and government alike. Women are being, or so they think they are being “empowered” with independence. Men are being downgraded to less than intelligent beings who act as rabid dogs with animal like instincts. Of course, we have also been told we evolved from a monkey which would explain the underestimated intelligence of such a being. This is something that has evolved over the last several decades dating all the way back to the early 1900’s, but has truly reached a tipping point in the last 10 years. This is the underground attack of the family, but most people are so blinded spiritually that they will never see it coming. Now, because they have negotiated their Godly standards for the progressive ideals of our society they must continue on this journey of downward decay. The ideals which are taught includes opinions about men which are completely false and highly offensive. The movement includes ideals about men such as: men are dumb, they lack critical thinking ability, lack vocabulary, are motivated by sex alone, only care about themselves (that is both men and women in our country), always unfaithful, without child rearing ability, incapable of caring for themselves, and my personal favorite being they are only capable of barbaric behavior. The standards for moms by the feministic agenda has not decreased one bit, but rather heightened expectations over time.
What motivated me to write on this topic has not only been my interest since realizing the attack on the family unit, but the recent release of a new movie causing women around the country to rave about how awesome it is. Normally I would not talk about nor promote movies with lots of inappropriate content (most of our weekly screen time is Veggie Tales and Leap Frog anyway), but when it deals with the moral dilemma in our country I have to investigate. After reviewing it and taking notes on the many social stigmas that it addresses, I can understand why many women would feel empowered or relieved by such a film. This movie titled “Bad Moms” concentrates on a few family units within a middle school setting. The main character of the movie deals with the daily requirements of being a “good mom” which includes not only taking care of her children; but also holding down a job, chauffeuring the kids to practices, maintaining extra-curricular activities, helping with the school PTO, and highlighted as the most mundane task would be taking care of her husband. After the husband gets caught having an online affair, the rogue mom then decides to go on a spree of being a “bad mom”. Instead of packing lunch, she provides Arby’s for the kids to take to school. She shows up late to work (although she also eventually stops altogether only to have her boss call her for a raise and additional benefits), is a no-show for various events for her kids, allows her kids to make their own breakfast, kicks out her husband (while also having an illicit affair with another gentleman herself), and goes on a spree of attacks against the whole ideal of being a “good mom”. This in turn sparks a rivalry with the PTA president mom. The remainder of the movie really reflects on the dispute between the “good moms” and “bad moms”. During this time while emphasizing as well as promoting their destructive behavior; these moms participate in illicit sex, binge drinking, drug use, and all out rebellion against the very idea of what it takes to be considered a good mom. Thankfully it ended better than it veered in the middle when the main mom finally begins to understand why she was doing what she did in the first place. Although her children were gaining independence to take care of themselves better, the neglect they suffered proved too much showing the mom needed to step back in at some point. While the married couple never repaired their marriage, the mom did return to being a more responsible mother and caretaker. Her two sidekicks however still showed behaviors of illicit sex, alcohol, and one even began to dominate her husband near the end of the movies. To her credit, he was the dominate partner prior to her “going bad”, but here at SCM we promote balanced and biblically based family values.
While I agree with the main stream that often we put too much pressure on moms to perform in this age, they take the ideals way too far in inciting all out rebellion against the very standards that make us good parents. Women are often pushed so far and hard that they have nervous breakdowns and lose what they fight so hard to accomplish all together. In essence, we have created this stigma that moms are required to be “super woman”. Holding it together while balancing their lives around everyone’s but theirs is what the new standards are. Even though our culture in most cases does not value children as human beings, they have high expectations of mothers. It is a common thought that moms should be able to control their little beasts (innocent children) in church so that the service isn’t interrupted. For goodness sakes, never let them lose it in the restaurant! The stares you will receive are worthy of the death penalty themselves. After the ravage beasts reach an age of maturity and turn out perfect, they can possibly enter the selfish world of existence today only to lose their innocence. Our culture is ironic in how moms are shunned for bottle feeding their kids, but child molestation is allowed to run rampant in our neighborhoods. I have personally dealt with many offenders and what I find is astonishing. It is ok to abort a child who has a soul, but not ok to murder his mother with the child inside the womb. You not only get time for her murder, but also the unborn child. Compare that with the drug user who is doing life for possession while a full-blown child rapist only does 5 years of jail time. I believe from my view point of observation, that God never wanted these types of standards for mothers. Going by God’s plan for family structure and planning allows for a much improved daily life for the family unit.
So what defines a good mom/woman you may ask? There is no better place in my opinion to look than the great book which is the Bible, which includes the stories of countless women who have raised remarkable children many times. To identify traits of a good mother we look at women like Sarah, Rebecca, Ruth, Mary, and the many countless Jewish women in history who have proven to be remarkable women of God. Proverbs 31:10-31 has much to say regarding the measure of a good woman. Traits such as wisdom, strength, honor, hard-working, gentle, kind, loving, and charitable are only some of the many characteristics that are highlighted in this most power packed scripture. I love the ideals that are also intertwined within its listings of strengths for a good woman, which includes the requirements of a good husband to help her reach these levels of achievement. A woman, just as a man cannot simply conquer the demands on their life and time by doing it alone. We need the helper in a spouse to get the job done in raising good quality legacies in this world. We have to remember that what we sow here follows us into the eternal life to come if we plan on living in heaven. What we fall short on or do not accomplish, we will be judged by in the second coming of the Lord.
Just because rebellion from the normal may grant some independence, freedom, and happiness in your life in the short-term; does not mean it will last. This euphoric feeling of happiness almost always disappears within a year, followed by the demise of the family unit with it. A strong family unit requires good husbands and fathers who play their roles within the family unit. While exact responsibilities and roles may adjust according to the needs of your household, the main roles are never lost in a good home. The more the main roles are lost, the more neglected the family becomes. We all know that today’s economy requires many households who wouldn’t normally require their wives to work to do so. We are not saying that wives need to stay home every day to only perform homely duties (although if you are able do this we tip our hats to you). I often wash dishes, do house chores, and watch the kids while my wife catches up on sleep because that is what is most needed some days within our home. This does not take away my responsibilities as a father or hers as a mother, but allows us to maximize our potential. God knows the desires of our hearts. If we truly care to be great parents and serve Him, you will be honored in that effort. We have seen the many effects of feminization in our country. Girls being girls are one thing, but our boys are turning into girls also. Many factors deem to be the cause of this phenomenon. The largest of them would be the absence of fathers in the home first and foremost. The second would be the degradation of the family unit from media such as the movie we have discussed here. When fathers are present in the home, they are absent mentally and emotionally a majority of the time. The federal government now punishes the positive characteristics of a good home, while rewarding promiscuity in women and men. It is easier to make it financially in today’s economy if you wish to have a family by simply getting the woman of your choice pregnant, allowing her to stay in whatever housing of her choice, and never claiming her residence as yours or marrying her. This could reward her with government assistance to eat, childcare, housing costs, and additional aid from child support. This also allows the father to avoid the responsibilities of engaging in care of the children at his choice, whenever he pleases since he is not obligated to the mother by marriage.
For all the moms out there who are inspired by this film to rebel against Gods requirements as a parent, please do not fall for the lies of Hollywood. I believe just by looking at the children of these actors and their lifestyles, you can see why I advise against it. You are stronger than that and your family deserves better. Never judge yourself according to a role in a perfectly screen-written movie, but hold yourself accountable to the Word of God and His plan for you. At the end of this walk in our lives, the only one you will answer to is Christ himself. He is the judge and our standard. He is the one who shed His blood for us, and He will be the anchor that will hold you amidst life’s biggest storms. Hang in there mom, you have a child of the King in your arms!
Proverbs 31:10-31 (KJV)
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth theLord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.